Leaning Out Spouses


You may be on this page because you found it yourself or because your spouse asked you to come here.

You’ve probably told your husband or wife that you are deeply unhappy in your marriage, and you may have brought up divorce. This is a hard time, one you never thought would come to pass the day you got married.

But you’ve not started the divorce process yet, or if you have started, you’re not certain it’s the right step. That’s why I suggest you consider Discernment Counseling to help you make the best decision about the future of your marriage.

Are you talking with friends or family members about your decision? They may be taking sides: saying either that you should move on from your marriage now, or that you should keep trying to make it work. It’s hard to know where to get an objective perspective. That’s something as a certified Discernment Counselor, I can give you.

Your spouse may be making things worse by reacting strongly to your feelings about ending the marriage. This is normal—most of us are not our best selves when feeling threatened with such a loss. But their reactions—anger, sadness, clinging, promising to totally change—may tempt you to give up on the marriage prematurely in order to escape the current turmoil and stress. Discernment Counselling calms these waters and gives each of you a voice about your distress and your hopes.